I’ve written about this in several other posts, but it just keeps happening! Someone says something negative about fat, and I just mentally freeze and don’t know what to say! And if I do say something, it’s not the right thing. Yesterday, a friend walked by with four cookies and showed me them and said some excited words about them that I could tell were meant to entice me into eating one. I had been feeling a little weird stomach-wise, so I wasn’t sure I wanted one, but I inspected them anyway, and once I realized that they were not actually a kind of cookie that I particularly like, I decided I definitely didn’t want one. My friend also offered a cookie to another girl nearby, but she declined since she was at that moment eating a cupcake. Upon learning that no one wanted one of his four cookies, my friend said “Now I look like a giant fatty!” (he is, in fact, a skinny guy). I looked at him with a face that I hope looked confused or mad but it’s hard to tell (this is my frozen moment), and then I said “Oh, eat your cookies!” (this is my moment of knowing I needed to say something, but not knowing what that thing should be). I wish I’d said “there’s nothing wrong with being fat, and eating four cookies is not a behavior typical only of fat people” or maybe “in studies, fat people on average don’t eat any more than thin people” or maybe “please don’t insult me by talking about fatness in a negative way”. I know these things are always easier to think of after the fact, but I just wish that once I’ve thought of them after the fact I’d be able to put them to use the next time something happens, and thus far I haven’t been able to! Maybe next time.